Very well said.

Still, there are some women who faithfully cling on to these flawed, outdated notions and to my disdain, there are also men who take advantages of these type of women. Consequently, women become slaves to men’s sophomoric desires whether they’re conscious of it or not.

Good post that should be read by women.

i wonder if they will understand it though. i know my mom won’t.

I’m thinking men are secretly afraid of the day when women find that they are superior to men in many ways and that they are only held back by physical limits like menstruation, pregnancy, and the like.

Men are such cocksuckers aren’t they? You don’t have to answer that. It’s true. They’re scared. Their dicks get limp when confronted by a woman of obvious power and what do they do about it? Call them witches, burn them, torture them, until every woman is afraid. Afraid of herself… afraid of men… and all for what? Fear of losing their hard-on.

-Daryl Van Horne, character from The Witches of Eastwick

eh ting?

“Ang mga babaeng easy to get, madaling iwanan ng lalake pag pinagsawaan na.”

I think your mom was referring to sex when she said that. Wasn’t she? Unless you were? Were you not? Fuck, I’m confused.

i absolutely did not get any goddamned thing you said.

Neither did I. I blame it all on lead poisoning.

What I meant to say was this:

Good point.

But wasn’t your mom referring to sex when she said that or to relationships in general? Cause whenever I hear that saying, I always think it refers to sex. Must be the testosterone.

But after that, you expounded on your relationships which would mean to say that you took it as referring to relationships UNLESS it was a thinly veiled statement that subcommunicates sex. Hmm…

Point is most women have an anti-slut defense that runs on autopilot that makes them say things like “I’m not like most girls out there…” Who says being a responsible, sexually-active adult derogates your womanhood.

i believe its a generation thing with parents. just forgive her and sigh. i dont think parents change their views at this point in their lives.

onezero: i don’t think she was referring to sex wholly. she meant sex AND relationships.

“Who says being a responsible, sexually-active adult derogates your womanhood.” Ooh, I dunno, Filipinos in general?

Jayvee: yep. but it’s really frustrating.

What’s more frustrating (and funny in a cosmic way) is that our kids will probably say the same about us

What’s sex got to do with being easy? I mean there are lot of things more important than sex like principles, values even hobbies that person shouldn’t give up for a partner. Giving up your principles for someone you’ve met for a week is easy. Having sex for enjoyment with a stranger is plain…. nothing. okay. I was lost there.

I bet your mom is talking about sex and courtship like my mom. MOMS!

Who says being a responsible, sexually-active adult derogates your womanhood?

Filipino women to be specific.

onezero: got that. and my answer stands.

lyn: sex with someone you don’t love counts for nil. read that in a cosmo chick lit this afternoon. meh. stupid book, that. but i agree with that line up there.

ting: i’ll give my daughter a condom when she hits menarche.

My boyfriend and I debate over this topic a lot. In fact, I blogged about it just last week.

Society (well, in our country) was trained to think that women can’t enjoy sex. It sucks. Why can’t we embrace our sexuality and not be called easy at the same time?

If these ‘norms’ aren’t considered to be norms at all, I would have offered myself to men I would enjoy shagging without hesitation. But hell no, we live in a ‘religious’ world governed by status, reputation and ‘dignity.’ We women are deprived of sex. It’s infuriating.

As for relationships, I’m damn hell easy. Too easy. I fell in love with my boyfriend after 2 weeks. Is there something wrong with that? It’s not as if we’re going to get married right after. That’s why there’s a trial thing called ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’ relationship.

Well, you know what, men are easy to get too! Hmph. Tell that to your mom.

skye, men are probably the easiest thing to get. and for free.

the notion of the “21st century and that people are freer than they have ever been in human history” may play in between two extreme sides of freedom itself, in my humble opinion. freedom can be viewed as going away from certain things or coming near to it. that dual essence can be desirable or undesirable, moral or immoral, positive or negative..etc. had only mankind did not know the notion of good or bad, the version of freedom you choose may not matter at all in the end.

and that is freedom, isn’t it? the right to damn or save yourself.

If only women will realize that it is the men that are easy to get. Women are very much capable of getting what they want and getting into what they want.

My husband and I often talk about how unconventional our relationship started out. But it is those that keep it real that last the longest.

And i dont think easy to get means easy to get bed. Is it so hard to imagine that women can enjoy sex (with or without the complications) just as much as men do?

I love your blog! I hope you dont mind my linking to you. I have also subscribed to your feeds. Cheers!

i agree. we girls can be persuasive creatures in our own rights.

thanks for the link! i’ve linked you too. nice blog you got going on there.