Happy and Comfy?

April 16, 2007

People almost always know how to solve their problems. But sometimes, the solution is too good for comfort, hence they ignore it and keep on trying inferior solutions which may only solve the problem partially, not solve it at all, or even make it worse. This is a pretty awful mindset, but it exists.

Everybody is a fan of comfort and it is probably one of the harder things in life to give up, because it takes so fucking long and too fucking hard to get it. ‘Comfort’ is subjective—a comfortable relationship for me involves me being able to fart in front of the guy like there’s no tomorrow, or pick my nose, or drool sticky icky-smelling saliva, or talk about the questions of the universe over a bunch of fries and floats. If I can do that with you, then I will find it very hard to leave you. That’s comfort for me. For you it may be doing your Fries-in-Nose demo in front of the girlfriend and not feel self-conscious at all. Depends. And I don’t say that only because it’s a safe answer.

When the comfort is lost, then there is a problem. The human brain goes: oh noes there’s a problem and my comfort zone is violated! What do I do what do I do what do I do! Oh I know! I won’t do anything or just do this thing which I am sure will not make me lose more comfort zone ground. Nevermind if another better solution exists—I can’t. Too hard. But thing is, something that makes you comfortable does not necessarily make you happy, and vice versa. And this is where the concept of strength comes in.

Giving up comfort requires strength. But strength allows you to pursue happiness. Like I’ve mentioned above, happiness and comfort aren’t synonymous. If given a choice, I would rather be happy and strong than comfortable and weak, because I’m still stupid like that.

I guess what I’m trying to say is: reorganize your priorities. Think about what makes you comfy as opposed to what makes you happy. Then junk that bitch of a girlfriend and move on with your life. If not, stop griping and hold your tongue until a random seizure twists your body into a horrible position and you die of choking on your saliva. Something like that.


Posted by lizette at 9:14 am | permalink

Previous Comments

I’ve always been striving to live a comfortable life. Yes, it’s true that when you find comfort, it does not mean you can also find happiness; however, I can say that you can find “satisfaction” in “comfort”. But it is people’s nature not to get satisfied, otherwise, we would be complacent. I must agree that you need to find strength in pursuit of happiness, because there is always a risk of getting sad again. The key here is “BALANCE”. A little bit of everything is better than ending up with nothing.

Posted by ven at April 16, 2007, 4:04 pm

yes. balance. fundamental concept to this post. thanks for mentioning!

Posted by lizette at April 16, 2007, 4:14 pm

it comes down to 2 things i think: indolence and fear. some folks are so used to taking the easy way out — so rather than shake up and rearrange their comfortable set-up they’re content to let the status quo remain

Posted by onyxx at April 16, 2007, 5:13 pm

hey onyxx! the one with the cute dog! thanks for visiting.

gods then I AM indolent. what an adjective to describe one’s self.

Posted by lizette at April 16, 2007, 5:45 pm

oops… cripes, have i just shoved my foot in my mouth again? :) sorry. actually it was more of a general comment. i’m probably more of a slacker than you are heheh

Posted by onyxx at April 16, 2007, 8:32 pm

Thanks for the comments. See you next time around. Yours is cool!

Posted by edward at April 16, 2007, 8:39 pm

i can totally relate to this post since right now i’m in the process of re-arranging my life, big time. i am moving out of my comfort zone because i feel that i have stagnated. i agree that giving up comfort requires strength and i have this fear that maybe i’m not strong enough.

aside from strength, i think you have to have motivation to search for something better outside your comfort zone. :)

Posted by gacdelacruz at April 17, 2007, 10:20 am

onyxx: i AM indolent. no need for apologies. i actually quite enjoy being one, between the two of us.

edward: i’ll be visiting again. i’ll link you!

gacdelacruz: right. motivation! good luck to you, i don’t know you but from reading your blog, i know you can pull it through. ^_^

Posted by lizette at April 17, 2007, 10:27 am

my life has been re-organized so many times, it has become difficult to call any place home. but i try. home is difficult to find.

Posted by herb at April 17, 2007, 2:01 pm

I’m moving out (yet again) of my current apartment (5th time in 7 years; yeah, I guess that means I’m light years older than you, hehe).
As one song goes, I’m still “long way to happy.”
But comfy? Will do. And that’s enough. For now.
Nice site you’ve got here, liz! ;)

Posted by zarine at April 17, 2007, 5:06 pm

herb: “home is difficult to find”. that’s why it’s so special.

zarine: thanks! ^_^

im linking both of you!

Posted by lizette at April 18, 2007, 12:24 pm

Lizette, just try not to fart in front of the guy like there’s no tomorrow, or pick your nose, or drool sticky icky-smelling saliva on the first date.

Posted by The Sarcasticynic at April 18, 2007, 9:00 pm